The Leadership Habit That's Making Your Whole Team Worse at Their Jobs

Most of us were taught a version of leadership that looks like this: stay steady, stay certain, always appear to be one step ahead. Project confidence even when we’re unsure. Show strength especially when we’re not. Because if the leader looks uncertain, everyone else will panic.

It’s understandable advice. And it quietly does a lot of damage.

When we only ever show certainty, we send an unspoken message that travels fast: uncertainty is not acceptable here. And when uncertainty is not acceptable at the top, it doesn’t disappear. It goes underground. People stop admitting what they don’t know. They stop asking for the help they need. They start managing appearances instead of solving problems, performing competence rather than building it.

A 2026 article from Laurel Kalser reported that 2/3 of over 300 senior leaders surveyed “would seek input more often from their teams to help make big decisions if they didn’t think it would make them appear weak.”

We think we’re creating confidence. We’re actually teaching people to hide.

That’s where psychological safety comes in.

Amy Edmondson’s decades of research on the subject shows consistently that the single most powerful thing a leader can do to encourage honest, high-quality thinking from their team is to model what she calls “leader inclusiveness.” That means visibly demonstrating that not knowing something is not only acceptable but expected. Teams where leaders ask genuine questions, acknowledge their own gaps, and openly request input consistently outperform those where leaders perform certainty.

This isn’t about falling apart in front of our team. It’s about saying, calmly and clearly: “I don’t know how to solve this. I need your help.” That sentence, delivered steadily, does something remarkable. It signals that not knowing is survivable here. That asking for help is a sign of good judgment, not weakness. And when people believe that, they start telling the truth about what they actually don’t know, which is the only way hard problems ever get solved together.

There’s a practical dimension worth naming, too. When we always have the answer, our team stops developing theirs. They bring us problems because they’ve learned we’ll solve them. Over time, the thinking that should be distributed across the team concentrates in us, which is both a bottleneck and a fragility. Research by Anita Williams Woolley at Carnegie Mellon found that the teams with the highest collective intelligence weren’t the ones with the smartest leaders. They were the teams where thinking, questioning, and uncertainty were most evenly shared.

Admitting what we don’t know and asking for help while we’re still in the middle of it is one of the most genuinely confidence-building things a leader can do. For our team, and for us.

Leadership takeaway: In your next team meeting, bring a real problem you haven’t solved yet. Say out loud: “I don’t know the answer to this and I need your thinking.” Then listen. Watch what happens to the room. That one moment of honest uncertainty will do more for your team’s engagement than a dozen polished presentations ever will.