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Bob Chapman

Season 6 · Episode 18

Remembering Bob Chapman: The Mentor Who Changed My Life

Sixteen years ago, an unknown CEO running a manufacturing company in the Midwest saw my TED Talk and recognized something in it. He sent me a letter and we made plans to meet. What started as a one-hour lunch turned into three, then four days touring factories together across the Midwest, and an idea I had only imagined turned out to already exist in reality. That CEO was Bob Chapman. Over five decades, Bob grew an unassuming manufacturing company in the Midwest into a global proof point that leadership grounded in humanity can scale and outperform. Bob saw the people in his company as human beings in his care, people he felt responsible to help become healthy, fulfilled, and whole. His belief was simple and profound: when people are cared for at work, they build happier families, stronger communities, and a better world. He called it Truly Human Leadership.  In the years that followed, Bob became something more: a mentor, a close friend, the central figure in my book *Leaders Eat Last,* and one of the people who shaped how I think about leadership itself. In September 2025, I returned to one of Bob's factories in Phillips, Wisconsin, with a camera crew, to capture Bob's incredible legacy in his own words. Six months later, Bob passed away. As a tribute to this great man, we're releasing the full conversation, in its entirety, for the first time. In this episode you'll learn: ➡️ Why Bob believed in seeing every person as someone’s precious child  ➡️ How Barry-Wehmiller rewrote the rules and ➡️ The university Bob built to teach his employees skills they were never taught ➡️ What impact a caring workplace can have on an employees life ➡️ The real difference between a prosperous company and a healthy one ➡️ Why Bob believed layoffs meant your business has failed ➡️ Why the greatest act of charity has nothing to do with the checks you write ➡️ What changed in Bob over the fifteen years Simon knew him ➡️ The letter Simon sent Bob years ago that ended up framed on his office wall As Bob said, "You can retire from a job, but you can't retire from a calling." He never did. This conversation is a chance to hear why, in his own words. This… is *A Bit of Optimism.* \+ + + To buy Bob’s book, *Everybody Matters*, head to: [https://simonsinek.com/optimism-press/everybody-matters](https://simonsinek.com/optimism-press/everybody-matters)  To read about Bob in my book, *Leaders Eat Last*, head to: [https://simonsinek.com/books/leaders-eat-last](https://simonsinek.com/books/leaders-eat-last)  \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** The Letter That Changed Everything: Meeting Bob Chapman - **00:05:23** Bob's Revelation: Seeing People as Somebody's Precious Child - **00:08:05** Building a University to Teach Caring: The Three Transformative Classes - **00:09:32** The Healing Power of Listening: Why 95% of Feedback Was About Marriage and Kids - **00:16:42** Recognition Done Right: Catching People Doing Good - **00:20:55** The 2008 Recession Test: Shared Sacrifice Over Layoffs - **00:23:07** "Layoffs Means Your Business Has Failed" - **00:26:02** You Don't Need to Justify Caring: Safety of the Soul - **00:27:53** 12% Compound Growth for 25 Years: The Business Case for Humanity - **00:29:53** "Our Product Is Our People" - **00:34:55** From Selfish to Servant: Simon's Challenge That Sparked a Movement - **00:36:26** People's Universal Truth: They Want to Know They Matter - **00:38:00** Bob Has Gotten Softer: The Personal Evolution of a Leader - **00:40:00** You Cannot Retire From a Calling: Carrying a Message That Heals - **00:43:10** Heart Counts, Not Head Counts: The Language of Humanization - **00:46:01** The Greatest Act of Charity: How You Treat People You Lead - **00:49:38** The Promise: Carrying the Torch for Generations to Come \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Leaderful: [https://simonsinek.com/leaderful](https://simonsinek.com/leaderful) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek)

June 23, 2026 52 min
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Ethan Mollick

Season 6 · Episode 17

The AI Skills Nobody is Teaching (And Everyone Needs) with AI Expert Ethan Mollick

Be honest: AI makes you a little nervous. Maybe you're afraid it'll take your job. Maybe you're overwhelmed by all the advice about prompts and agents and which chatbot to use. Or maybe you're just quietly hoping it'll all slow down.  Ethan Mollick says we're underestimating our own agency in the age of AI. Instead of worrying about what AI will do to us, we should focus on what we choose to do with it. Ethan is a Wharton professor, the author of the bestseller *Co-Intelligence: Living and Working with AI*, and the writer behind “One Useful Thing,” one of the most popular newsletters on AI, work, and education. He's spent twenty years studying how people actually use technology, and he's become the go-to voice for making sense of AI without the hype or the doom. And in his new book, *Co-Existence: The Next Phase of AI*, he explores what comes next as AI moves from a tool we prompt to a presence we live and work alongside. In this conversation, Ethan shares the practical playbook most of us are missing and makes the case that our experience, taste, and point of view aren't things AI replaces. They're exactly what make us better at using it. In this episode you'll learn:  ➡️ Why young people are NOT "AI natives" (and why experience is the real AI advantage)  ➡️ The $20 decision that instantly upgrades how you use AI  ➡️ Why AI agrees with everything you say + the simple prompt that fixes it  ➡️ How to make AI write in YOUR voice instead of sounding like everyone else  ➡️ The "jagged frontier": what AI is surprisingly bad at (and why that's your opportunity)  ➡️ Why taste may become the most valuable skill of the AI era  ➡️ How much agency we really have over where AI takes us Ethan believes that the future of AI isn't something that will just happen to us… It's something we get to build together. This… is *A Bit of Optimism*. \+ + + To pre-order Ethan’s new book, *Co-Existence: The Next Phase of AI*, head to: [https://co-existence.ai/](https://co-existence.ai/)  Want to hear more from Ethan? Check out his Substack “One Useful Thing”: [https://www.oneusefulthing.org/](https://www.oneusefulthing.org/)  \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** Why are AI Experts Are Either Doomers or Zealots? - **00:02:05** From Video Games to AI: Ethan's Unexpected Journey - **00:09:16** AI's Profound Impact on Knowledge Workers - **00:14:50** How AI Kills Traditional Talent Pipelines - **00:15:57** Why AI Art Doesn't Bother Me, But I'd Never Hang It on My Wall - **00:20:40** How To Overcome AI's Complication of Competitive Edge - **00:22:06** The 20 Dollar Investment That Changes Everything - **00:24:40** The 84 Percent Rule: Why AI Can Now Do Your Seven-Hour Job in 15 Minutes - **00:25:59** Your Voice Matters More Than You Think: Why AI Can't Replace Taste - **00:19:53** The Discomfort-Avoidant Generation Meets the Efficiency Machine - **00:13:08** Why Young People Are Worse at Using AI - **00:43:35** The Brain We're Sacrificing: From Phone Numbers to Critical Thinking - **00:51:39** Two Prompts That Will Transform How You Use AI - **00:52:58** How to Use AI As Co-Intelligence - **00:54:57** The Agency You Have Right Now: It's Not About Policy, It's About How You Use It \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Leaderful: [https://simonsinek.com/leaderful](https://simonsinek.com/leaderful) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek)

June 16, 2026 59 min
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How to Stop Letting Your Own Thoughts Make You Sick, Stressed, and Stuck with Dr. Ellen Langer

Season 6 · Episode 16

How to Stop Letting Your Own Thoughts Make You Sick, Stressed, and Stuck with Dr. Ellen Langer

Most of us are so certain about, well, everything. We think we can predict what's coming, what that off-hand comment really meant, what that look was about, what's going to go wrong. And according to Dr. Ellen Langer, that certainty is making us miserable… and possibly making us sick. Dr. Langer is a psychologist, Harvard professor, and the "Mother of Mindfulness." In her book *The Mindful Body*, she makes the case that the way we think directly shapes the way we heal, age, stress, and recover. Her conclusion: the mind and the body were never two separate things to begin with. And we have far more agency over both than we've been led to believe In this episode you'll learn: ➡️ What mindfulness (and mindlessness) really is ➡️ The one question that can dissolve stress almost instantly ➡️ Why the story you tell yourself is more powerful than what actually happened ➡️ The study that proved people lost weight without changing their diet or exercise ➡️ The difference between nervousness and excitement (and why it matters) ➡️ Why certainty is a sign of mindlessness (not intelligence) ➡️ How your body heals faster or slower based on what you believe ➡️ Why "fighting" an illness is the wrong mindset ➡️ The simple reframe that turns every negative trait into a strength ➡️ Why confident people don't need to rely on certainty In this conversation, Ellen makes the case that virtually all of us are mindless almost all of the time. And the moment you recognize that, everything opens up. Your health, your relationships, your ability to recover from hardship. The obstacle, it turns out, has always been the assumption that there was nothing left to question. This… is A Bit of Optimism. \+ + + To buy a copy of Dr. Ellen Langer’s books *The Mindful Body: Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health* and *Finding Happy*, head to: [https://www.ellenlanger.me](https://www.ellenlanger.me/) \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** Stress Is a Story We Tell Ourselves - **00:01:27** What Mindfulness Actually Means - **00:02:59** Why Everything You Know Is Probably Wrong - **00:04:29** One Plus One Doesn't Always Equal Two - **00:06:59** Are We Wired for Stress or Taught to Be Stressed? - **00:08:16** When Ellen's House Burned Down: Finding Gifts in Tragedy - **00:13:19** Is This a Tragedy or an Inconvenience? - **00:19:24** Nervous or Excited? The Olympic Athletes' Secret to Reframing Stress - **00:22:26** The First Step to Mindfulness: Embracing Uncertainty - **00:23:15** Behavior Makes Sense From the Actor's Perspective - **00:33:24** Context, Context, Context: Who Gets to Decide? - **00:42:41** Mind Over Matter: The Stories That Started It All - **00:46:24** The Counterclockwise Study: Turning Back Time in Five Days - **00:47:07** The Chambermaid Study: When Work Becomes Exercise - **00:49:47** Wounds Heal Based on Perceived Time, Not Real Time - **00:52:01** Are We Mindless Almost All the Time? \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Leaderful: [https://simonsinek.com/leaderful](https://simonsinek.com/leaderful) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek) Simon’s books: The Infinite Game: [https://simonsinek.com/books/the-infinite-game/](https://simonsinek.com/books/the-infinite-game/) Start With Why: [https://simonsinek.com/books/start-with-why/](https://simonsinek.com/books/start-with-why/) Find Your Why: [https://simonsinek.com/books/find-your-why/](https://simonsinek.com/books/find-your-why/) Leaders Eat Last: [https://simonsinek.com/books/leaders-eat-last/](https://simonsinek.com/books/leaders-eat-last/) Together is Better: [https://simonsinek.com/books/together-is-better/](https://simonsinek.com/books/together-is-better/)

June 9, 2026 57 min
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Tim Harris

Episode 227

What Happens When You Stop Optimizing and Start Committing with Former LA Lakers President Tim Harris

In a world of job-hopping, side hustles, and an endless LinkedIn feed, Tim Harris did something almost no one does anymore. He stayed put. Few executives spend an entire career helping build a dynasty. Tim Harris spent 35 years with the Los Angeles Lakers, rising to President of Business Operations and helping transform the franchise into a global brand. Through championship eras, iconic athletes like Kobe Bryant and LeBron James, and decades of change in professional sports, Tim's influence was felt not on the hardwood, but in the culture, leadership, and business excellence that powered one of the NBA's most storied organizations. In this episode you'll learn: ➡️ Why clarity of role is the most underrated tool in any leader's arsenal ➡️ The three unspoken words that silently destroy any team  ➡️ What Kobe Bryant taught Tim about mindset (+ why it matters off the court) ➡️ How the Lakers built one of the most powerful brands in sports ➡️ What elite athletes do differently + how it translates directly to business  ➡️ What caring, high-performing leadership actually looks like  ➡️ Why giving away free tickets to strangers was a brilliant + caring business decision ➡️ The cost of short-termism + what we lose when we stop playing the long game Even a brand as iconic as the Lakers wasn't built by championships alone. Tim says its foundation was built one small, genuine human moment at a time.  This… is *A Bit of Optimism*. \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** You Have to Love Them in Order to Win - **00:01:54** Why Tim Stayed 35 Years With One Company - **00:04:30** From Soccer Player to Lakers President: Tim's Unlikely Journey - **00:07:54** Coaching as Leadership: Don't Play on the Field - **00:09:39** The Long Game vs Day Trading Success - **00:11:00** The Underrated Tool of Clarity of Role - **00:13:29** Kobe's Compartmentalization: Nice Guy Off Court, Competitor On Court - **00:15:19** The Mental Game: What Separates Elite Athletes From Everyone Else - **00:22:08** The Three Unspoken Words That Ruin Any Team - **00:24:16** Meeting People Where They Are - **00:36:45** Caught You Being a Laker: Empowering Employees to Create Magic - **00:30:31** The Empty Seat Philosophy: Turning Sunk Costs Into Memories - **00:31:35** Building Brands One Tiny Act at a Time - **00:38:42** Remember That Business Is Always Human - **00:42:04** The Jenga Theory: Every Interaction Either Builds or Destroys Your Brand - **00:46:31** Caring Structure: What People Actually Crave at Work - **00:47:26** Never Miss Your Kid's Game: The Accountability Agreement - **00:50:09** Learning From Legends: Phil Jackson and the Human-First Philosophy - **00:48:48** The Work Happens in the Dark: What Made Kobe and LeBron Great - **00:50:56** Stop and Look at the Joy: Championship Lessons and Kobe's Legacy \+ + + Credits **Footage:** NBA Entertainment **Photos:** [http://bit.ly/43Fb37Z](http://bit.ly/43Fb37Z) (Full List) \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Leaderful: [https://simonsinek.com/leaderful](https://simonsinek.com/leaderful) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek)

June 2, 2026 57 min
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Revisited: Choose Your Seven Humans Wisely with Author Fredrik Backman

Episode 226

Revisited: Choose Your Seven Humans Wisely with Author Fredrik Backman

Hello from Team Simon! We're taking a quick break this week and will be back with brand-new episodes of *A Bit of Optimism* next Tuesday.  Until then, we're revisiting one of our favorite episodes — when bestselling novelist Fredrik Backman joined the show to talk about the thing he's spent his whole career writing about: the quiet, radical power of showing up for people. And Fredrik says great friendships aren't found by luck. They're built deliberately, repeatedly, and, sometimes, inconveniently by people who choose to do the work. Fredrik is the internationally bestselling author of *A Man Called Ove* (adapted into the film *A Man Called Otto*), *Anxious People*, and the *Beartown* series. His book, *My Friends*, is a love letter to the relationships that quietly shape who we become. In this conversation, Fredrik opens up about his best friend of over 30 years and what 30 years of real friendship actually requires. His words will have you thinking hard about the friends you might be taking for granted. In this episode you'll learn:  ➡️ Why great friendship is a skill + what the work actually looks like  ➡️ The concept of your "people” vs. “humans"  ➡️ Why your friends are your best editors ➡️ The friendship rule that changed how Fredrik's entire friend group thought about relationships ➡️ The unexpected value of quantity of time vs. quality of time  ➡️ How to be genuinely happy for someone else  ➡️ The difference between healthy self-deprecation and low self-esteem  ➡️ Why the work in a relationship is never solely on the relationship — it's always on you A great relationship isn't a stroke of luck. It's a choice you make every day, in small ways, often when it's inconvenient. This conversation is a reminder of why it's worth it. This… is A Bit of Optimism. \+ + + To buy Fredrik’s book, *My Friends*, visit: [https://www.simonandschuster.com/authors/Fredrik-Backman/411545926](https://www.simonandschuster.com/authors/Fredrik-Backman/411545926)  \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** We Don't Need Algorithms to Find Our People - **00:02:45** Fredrik's Viral Speech: Fueled by Pure Panic - **00:05:55** The Power of Authenticity: Why Imperfection Resonates - **00:07:29** Choose Your Seven Humans Wisely - **00:08:56** The Friend Who Taught Him Everything - **00:15:43** Quality Time vs Quantity Time: The ROI of Presence - **00:17:53** The "I Want To," Not "I Have To" Philosophy - **00:20:55** Your Friends Are Your Best Editors - **00:13:23** Writing as Self-Editing - **00:15:06** Learning to Be Happy for Others - **00:22:41** The Gift of Time: Showing Up When It Matters - **00:23:56** Be A Great Friend, Get Great Friends - **00:28:55** The Work Is On You: Relationships and Self-Growth - **00:36:23** Algorithms Would Never Match Us: The Value of Difference - **00:34:21** Trying Is Everything - **00:35:55** People vs Humans - **00:37:18** Self-Deprecation vs Low Self-Esteem - **00:39:22** The Jantelagen: Swedish Humility Law - **00:45:26** The Fear of Disappointing People - **00:48:00** Expectations vs Reality: Letting Go of Fantasy - **00:49:00** Understanding Bullies: Finding What We Have in Common - **00:51:21** Fighting Narcissism: Surrounding Yourself With Better People - **00:52:08** Being Comfortable Not Knowing: The Gateway to Learning - **00:55:28** The World's Best Cardamom Bun Debate \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Leaderful: [https://simonsinek.com/leaderful](https://simonsinek.com/leaderful) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek)

May 26, 2026 58 min
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Vanessa Van Edwards

Episode 225

How to Stop Being Socially Awkward (According to Science) with Behavioral Scientist Vanessa Van Edwards

Maybe this sounds familiar: you leave a party and spend the rest of the night convinced everyone was upset with you. Or you replay something you said in a meeting for days and second-guess every last word. Vanessa Van Edwards has been there. As a self-proclaimed "recovering awkward person," she’s spent two decades decoding the hidden dynamics of human interaction to make those skills teachable for introverts and extroverts alike. Vanessa is a behavioral researcher, bestselling author, and founder of Science of People. In her book, *Conversation: How to Be Instantly Likeable in Any Interaction*, she makes the case that social skills aren't a personality type, they're learnable. And she believes we are living in the most critical moment in history to *start* learning them. In this episode you'll learn: ➡️ Why "just be yourself" is unhelpful advice + potentially cruel ➡️ The important everyday interactions technology + AI replaced ➡️ Where to stand at a party so someone always talks to you ➡️ How to have better conversations (+ why you already have the skills) ➡️ What the real antidote to awkwardness is ➡️ How to practice micro-social skills without turning people off ➡️ Why we’re all ambiverts + how to understand ambiversion ➡️ How soft skills drive major career inflection points ➡️ The concept of social fitness + the “nutrition” of your relationships In this conversation, Vanessa lays out how even the most socially anxious among us can build real connections and become more likable… even in a world that has quietly removed all the places we used to accidentally get good at being human. And the secret isn't confidence. It's something far more generous. This… is *A Bit of Optimism*. \+ + + Watch *A Bit of Optimism* on Spotify, and Spotify Premium users can enjoy the show ad-free. \+ + + To pre-order Vanessa’s new book, *Conversation: How to Be Instantly Likeable in Any Interaction*, head to: [https://www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation/](https://www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation/) Want to learn more people skills from Vanessa? Check out The Science of People: [https://www.scienceofpeople.com/](https://www.scienceofpeople.com/) \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** Social Skills in the Digital Age Crisis - **00:01:47** Vanessa's Journey: The Accidental Social Skills Expert - **00:05:45** Mistakes Everyone Makes Learning to Improve Social Skills - **00:08:09** Where Did Our Places to Practice Being Human Go? - **00:11:17** Where to Stand at a Party When You Don't Know Anyone - **00:14:17** The Ambivert Reality: Social Fitness and Friendship Nutrition - **00:18:07** The Discomfort Problem: Why Young People Avoid Rather Than Adapt - **00:21:33** Put the Shoes in the Box: The Art of Knowing When to Stop - **00:34:54** Intention Matches Action: Defining Authenticity - **00:46:56** The Power of Being Seen: How Love Changed Everything - **00:49:51** The Ultimate Social Skill: Helping Others Feel Normal - **00:42:20** Micro-Social Skills: Finding the Parts of Yourself You Like \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Leaderful: [https://simonsinek.com/leaderful](https://simonsinek.com/leaderful) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek)

May 19, 2026 59 min
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Tom Nash

Episode 224

Stop Telling Us Everything Happens for a Reason with Anti-Victim Tom Nash

We often comfort ourselves with the idea that things happen for a reason, or define our struggles as a test of strength. Tom Nash might ask you to reconsider. Tom is a speaker, former DJ, and globe-trotting advocate for agency, anti-fragility, and the radical idea that your worst moment might be your greatest asset — as he argued in his TED Talk, "The Perks of Being a Pirate.” He’s also the mind behind *Last Meal with Tom Nash* where he asks his guests what their last meal would be if the world ended tomorrow, and then actually cooks it for them. In our conversation, Tom shares how, at 19, a rare bacterial infection left him a quadruple amputee with a 2% chance of survival. And he'll tell you it's the best thing that ever happened to him. This isn’t just another conversation about resilience. It’s a deep dive into agency and the difference between a life that happens to you and one you actually choose. In this episode, we explore: ➡️ Why the story you tell yourself about your own life is the most powerful force in it ➡️ The difference between resilience and anti-fragility (and why it matters) ➡️ Tom’s framework for navigating adversity: The Artist, the Author, and the Alchemist ➡️ The counterintuitive reason why we actually need support networks ➡️ Why "everything happens for a reason" can be a trap (and the perspective that works better) ➡️ What your last meal choice reveals about what you're really searching for ➡️ Why the concept of being "self-made" is a dangerous illusion Tom joins me to ask a fundamental question: who is really holding the pen when it comes to your story? This… is *A Bit of Optimism*. \+ + + Watch the new season of Tom’s show *Last Meal with Tom Nash* and head to: [https://www.lastmealwithtomnash.com](https://www.lastmealwithtomnash.com/) Want more Tom? Check out his website: [https://www.tomnash.com](https://www.tomnash.com/) \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** Adversity Can Be The Best Thing You Experience - **00:03:45** Tom's Story: Contracting Meningococcal Disease - **00:07:47** The Gift of Agency: Choosing to Amputate - **00:16:18** The Artist, The Author, and The Alchemist: A Framework for Anti-Fragility - **00:20:28** The Alchemist: Turning Adversity Into Advantage - **00:23:52** Learning to Walk Again: The Momentum Metaphor - **00:26:57** The True Purpose of Support Networks - **00:34:33** Why 'Everything Happens for a Reason' Robs You of Agency - **00:47:37** The Last Meal Question: What Your Choice Reveals About Freedom - **00:42:23** Joel Robuchon: Leadership Through Teaching, Not Commanding - **00:58:34** The Problem With Inspirational Affirmations - **01:00:59** Stop Saying Everything Happens for a Reason \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Leaderful: [https://simonsinek.com/leaderful](https://simonsinek.com/leaderful) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek) Simon’s books: The Infinite Game: [https://simonsinek.com/books/the-infinite-game/](https://simonsinek.com/books/the-infinite-game/) Start With Why: [https://simonsinek.com/books/start-with-why/](https://simonsinek.com/books/start-with-why/) Find Your Why: [https://simonsinek.com/books/find-your-why/](https://simonsinek.com/books/find-your-why/) Leaders Eat Last: [https://simonsinek.com/books/leaders-eat-last/](https://simonsinek.com/books/leaders-eat-last/) Together is Better: [https://simonsinek.com/books/together-is-better/](https://simonsinek.com/books/together-is-better/)

May 12, 2026 1 hr 2 min
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Mike Posner

Episode 223

The Real Reason You Feel Empty (Even When Life Looks Good) with Musician Mike Posner

If at some point, you've looked at your life—your job, your relationships, your achievements—and thought: “*is this it?”* This episode is for you.  Mike Posner had that moment at 30. His life, by every external measure, was extraordinary: he had hit songs, Grammy nominations, millions in the bank. He was a pop star… And he was miserable. What followed was one of the most honest reckonings we've ever heard on this show. Mike walked across America, survived a rattlesnake bite, climbed Everest, and came out the other side with something no amount of success had ever given him: peace. Mike Posner is a multi-platinum, Grammy-nominated recording artist, songwriter, and producer. But the reason you should listen to this conversation has nothing to do with any of that. It has everything to do with where he was and his incredibly human journey getting to somewhere better, more peaceful, and more meaningful. He even wrote a song about it—a follow up to his hit song “I Took a Pill in Ibiza” called “I Went Back To Ibiza.” In this episode you'll learn: ➡️ Why achieving your biggest goals can leave you feeling emptier than before you started  ➡️ The difference between real vulnerability and broadcasting your pain online (and why intention changes everything)  ➡️ Why comfort (not failure) might be the thing quietly hollowing out your life  ➡️ What walking across America actually taught Mike about who he was and who he wasn't  ➡️ Why self-improvement taken too far becomes selfishness  ➡️ The one pursuit more valuable than success, grit, or getting to the top You don't need a Grammy nomination to relate to this conversation, you just need to have ever wondered if the life you're building is actually the life you want. This… is *A Bit of Optimism*. \+ + + Watch *A Bit of Optimism* on Spotify! If you’re subscribed to Spotify Premium, you don’t get any Spotify ads on my video. If you want to watch Mike’s new music video for “I Went Back To Ibiza,” check it out here: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDL6SEW4xKU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDL6SEW4xKU) You can find “I Went Back To Ibiza” wherever you stream music. \+ + + Chapters ### Chapters - **00:00:00** The Real Reason You Feel Empty - **00:06:51** Art as Alchemy: Turning Pain into Beauty - **00:18:12** The Asymmetry Between What We Have and What We Give - **00:20:32** Walking Across America: Getting Out of His Comfort Zone - **00:24:54** The Snake Bite: When Attention Came From Pain - **00:30:13** The Problem With Avoiding Discomfort - **00:33:47** From Fraud to Peace: Mike's Transformation - **00:36:31** Walking Each Other Home: The Purpose of Art and Life - **00:38:56** The Pursuit of Peace, Not Just Hardship - **00:48:48** Getting to the Top of Everest: Only Half of the Journey \+ + + Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including *Start With Why*, *Leaders Eat Last*, *Together is Better*, and *The Infinite Game*. \+ + + Website: [http://simonsinek.com/](http://simonsinek.com/) Live Online Classes: [https://simonsinek.com/classes/](https://simonsinek.com/classes/) Podcast: [http://apple.co/simonsinek](http://apple.co/simonsinek) Instagram: [https://instagram.com/simonsinek/](https://instagram.com/simonsinek/) Linkedin: [https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/](https://linkedin.com/in/simonsinek/) Twitter: [https://twitter.com/simonsinek](https://twitter.com/simonsinek) Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek](https://www.facebook.com/simonsinek)

May 5, 2026 53 min
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